I realized as I was talking to her that I have this thing down to a science. I know how to startle someone on the other side of the conversation with my candor,elicit empathy with imagery and details of past struggles, and ask for help while showing off with all the tips I already have down pat from my less successful endeavors.
Amy wasn't buying any of it. She called my bluff and reminded me of Patti from Millionaire Matchmaker.
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She always says "Why love now?"
Amy essentially asked "Why now?" To me. I mean she was much more polite than Miss Patti could ever be, but I definitely felt side blinded by her pointed honesty.
Some things I thought were worth sharing:
***Going at this like it's all going to happen now is a perfect way to fail. I'm allotted six sessions a year and she suggested we spread our meetings out to every six weeks so I could get nine months in. I'm thinking of throwing in a few longer stretches around vacations so I can make it last all year and give myself time to fail and repair.
***Less strength training and more cardio. And the cardio needs to happen after the weights so I'm warmed up. She said most people who do 30 minutes on a machine just get started on their reserve weight and don't make progress. Strength is important, but it's also a good way to sit on a chair and work one muscle. Not a lot of fat burning going on there.
***Caffeine is the enemy. If you're tired, go to sleep. If you're lacking energy drink water and work out. When you want caffeine go for tea -- it's mostly all water.
***Focus on a realistic pace for real life change. She ask if I could think of anything in nature that changes just drastically overnight. I told her that sometimes the leaves can all fall off the tree in one day, and she said that was a good point. But you don't see the baby grow into an adult in one day or the tree go completely from green foliage to no leaves in one day. Most things in nature have a process, an evolution. The body is no different.
***She said she feels like I use control and food together. Instead of seeing food as something to enjoy, I see it as something I could control. Even if it's bad for me, even if it costs a lot, even if it's late, even if it requires someone else go get it for me, I can have whatever I want whenever I want it. Now I want to clarify that I did tell her a lot about the reasons I feel like I'm not successful when it comes to eating nutritious food. I don't want anyone to think that Amy just wildly made a conjecture in our very first meeting. This was founded, and not necessarily something amazingly profound it it's own right, but for me it hit me like a ton of bricks. This is the emotional part of this process; I have to figure out how to feel a greater sense of control in my life so I don't just displace that frustration in my food intake.
That's a lot for 30 minutes isn't it???
I certainly thought so. All good stuff!
Change what you can, my friends.
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